Protecting the mental wellbeing of your daughter
An article in the Guardian at the weekend entitled “how do we protect our daughters’ mental wellbeing?” was interesting. It suggested that parents should not add to the pressure school places upon a child to do well academically.
In school we don’t have expectations that they achieve beyond that of which they are capable. Pupils work hard at PHS and do better than their predicted outcome using the base-line test they sit on entry to school but that is due to their efforts and desire to do well. I am sure as parents you want the same result but not at the expense of their happiness.
Another point argued for a joint parental and child decision on the use of digital devices and one of my sister school heads said that as adults we do not mirror good practice by going through emails whilst at the same time trying to listen to our child. Phone etiquette is needed and a laying down of ground rules for use by everyone. We all under estimate just how much time is spent replying to messages, looking at social media apps and following friends and their activities.
Another point included letting your daughter experience failure and not to always expect to be first or win at everything. This includes friendships which change with
maturity and there is a need to accept that interests develop sometimes in a different direction with age.
Sit down together for meals. This helps children eat properly and healthily without rushing their food and it is when chatting around the table parents find out about how things are going with school work, friends and life in general. It gives opportunity for family discussions about current affairs and news beyond celebrity gossip as well as time for family catch-up.
There were many other good points about raising your daughters and most if not all the points are applicable to boys too. Furthermore they are not rocket science and yet parenting can be hard. This is because children are individuals and what suits one does not always work with another. However, if we all reassure children that it is perfectly normal to at times be worried, afraid, fail at something, experience disappointment, and at the same time be excited, ambitious, risk taking within safe boundaries and most of all have fun I am sure the girls will keep their mental wellbeing strong. Lots of good literature is suggested at the end of the article too for raising healthy girls.
To read the original article in The Guardian click here