Being a good loser, but also a gracious winner… | Portsmouth High School

Being a good loser, but also a gracious winner…

My assembly at the start of last week served two functions. The first was to showcase the amazing art of the girls for the PSA Christmas card competition.

The standard of artwork on display across the school was magnificent. It is clear that a lot of time, effort and fun went into producing the cards. It was, of course, a competition. Therefore, there could only be one winner from each class. I know that the PSA committee had an almost impossible job trying to choose between all of the different offerings. There was then an overall winner that could easily grace any shop shelf this Christmas. Well done Xanthe Newman.

The second part of the assembly was a discussion on winning and losing. This is particularly difficult for children to get used to, particularly for the very young as their world tends to revolve around themselves. That is one of the reasons that gentle competition and celebrating each other’s achievements is important from the start. Understanding that only one from the class can win, means that it is far more likely that they will lose, is something that helps children prepare for later life. Being a good loser, but also a gracious winner, is something that we all have to learn.

This lesson does seem to work very well with our girls. So much so that I am often pushing them to be a little more ruthless when they are playing sport against other schools. The balance is to always strive to win, but accept the fact that there is a chance you will lose and do so graciously. I should confess that this took me a long time to learn when playing sport and I still have to give myself a good talking to occasionally. I was a particularly poor loser during my twenties when I was playing at a reasonably elite level, which just goes to show that it is important to keep learning these lessons.